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Signs You Play the Victim in Relationships
As told by a recovering victim.
“You’re acting like a victim, Michael.”
“Fuck, there I go again,” I said to myself, as I stared at the WhatsApp message from my most influential mentor. There’s something about male coaches that just cuts through the bullshit, and sometimes the necessary truth cuts right to the bone.
Oftentimes I hate myself for this identification, but even that is a venture into victimhood.
When I leave the door open for toxic people, caretake those in codependent ways, cling to fantasy and expectations, blame others for my feelings, and believe that “this time it’ll be different,” I contribute to my self-victimization.
I don’t want to live like that anymore, but if I’m not mindful I’ll slip back into my old “poor me” pattern. Like a car that needs an alignment, if I don’t keep my hand on the wheel I’ll drift into the ditch.
You could even say I have an addiction to victimhood, so if you do too, I suggest we both take the needle out of our arm ASAP.
