So You’ve Been Ghosted. Now What?
Ghosting sucks. But don’t fret — you have options to cope with it.
Most people would be hard-pressed to find an experience more disheartening than being ghosted. There is nothing more painful than putting your heart and soul into a potential relationship, only to get left standing in the (metaphorical) rain.
Unfortunately, ghosting is happening more and more frequently, and you need to know what to do when it happens to you.
Here are three tips for keeping your sanity after being ghosted.
Use your “wise mind”
Psychologist and therapy developer, Dr. Marsha Linehan, coined the term “Wise Mind” to refer to the part of your brain that helps you act in the direction of your values. Wise mind is the blend between emotions and logic — the part of your brain that has your back.
Wise mind helps you avoid black and white thinking (i.e., “people love me or hate me”) or catastrophic thinking (i.e., “because someone doesn’t message me back that means they hate me and never want to see me again”). Wise mind helps you remember that there are a lot of reasons for why someone might ghost (including family or health issues, competing priorities, lack of interest, etc.) and that ghosting may or may not have anything to do…
