Stop Dating to Be Chosen. Start Choosing From Your Centre.

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This one’s for anyone who’s ever sat across from someone, smiling politely while their stomach whispered, “This isn’t it.”

This one’s for the women who contort themselves into “cool,” “low-maintenance,” “whatever-you-want” versions of themselves in the hopes that someone else will pick them.

And for the brave few who’ve finally realised:

Being chosen is not the prize.

Being rooted in your worth is.

I see you.

You’re tired. I am talking, soul tired.

Tired of wondering if you’re “too much.” Tired of shrinking yourself to fit inside someone else’s maybe. Tired of decoding mixed signals like it’s your full-time job.

You’re dating to be chosen, and you know it. You say you’re confident. Independent. Empowered.

But deep down? You still secretly hope he sees your worth before you do.

So let me shake you a little:

STOP.

Stop dating to be chosen.

Start choosing from your damn centre.

You know, they taught us real good: