The Anchoring Effect: Do You Rush to Judge Your Partner?
When you rely too heavily on certain pieces of information.
Do you often catch yourself making assumptions about your partner?
You know what kind of assumptions — what they’re gonna think, how they’re gonna react, how they will probably behave under certain circumstances.
Usually, these assumptions are based on a single trait of their personality, a past action, or a single piece of information they have given you at some point.
For example, they might have told you that they used to drink a lot in the past, so you assume that it’s only a matter of time before they start drinking again. They might have revealed to you that they grew up in a racist family, so you assume that they must be secretly racist themselves.
Or, because they lashed out at a waiter during one of your dates, you assume they’re rude and get angry easily.
Whether we like it or not, we all tend to make assumptions and judge the people around us based on those assumptions. We do it often, about anyone and anything. Now, I’m not implying that it’s the right thing to do, I’m just stating that it’s a common human tendency.
