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The Five Kinds of Guys I Met During my Fifty First Dates Experiment
This morning I was messaging with a friend and his question made me laugh so hard I nearly fell out of bed. He wanted to know what kinds of men I’d encountered while doing my Fifty First Dates experiment.
That wasn’t the funny part.
What made me lose my balance, in a bed of all places, was that his question came from such an innocent and kind place. Were they, he asked, introverted, extraverted, confident, or shy?
I had never thought of it that way.
At all.
Instead, I gave him the true answer.
After fifty-one dates, every single one fell into one of five categories that were far less superficial than demeanor.
1. I’d like to have sex with you today, now if possible.
This guy is the one that most condemn, but he’s the most honest. If he wants to come to my apartment at nine o’clock at night, I’m under no illusion that it’s to get to know me better. If he only messages about sex on a dating app, he’s not being obtuse. A woman only has to make sure of one thing with this guy: not to make a hookup into anything more. If she does, he’ll say he was upfront, and she’ll slink away disappointed.
