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The Pluses — and Minuses — Of Dating Older Men
Men in their 40s and 50s have a lot of stuff figured out, but there are drawbacks.
Some women in their 20s complain about “the men today” when it comes to dating.
For you younger women who are beginning to think all men are morons, I’m here to offer you a bit of hope: It gets better.
There are some big advantages to dating men who are in their 40s and 50s. I’ll let you know about those, but I’ll balance it out by telling you what’s not so great about dating older men.
(These are just general trends I’ve noticed. Please don’t mistake me for saying these points are true of all older men.)
+ 1. They’re better at chasing even though they’re slower.
The messages I get from men in their 40s and 50s on online dating platforms tend to be richer, like they’re trying hard to get me and my attention. They seem to have gotten the “For God’s sake, ask me a question I can answer” memo about how to start a conversation.
Younger men do ask questions, but the question is more apt to be, and I quote, “s’up?”
Ok, I’m exaggerating. Plenty of younger men write very nice messages. I’m just saying that about 100% of…