The Secret to Dating With Confidence
Here’s how to feel more sure of yourself during courtship.
Even if you’re a self-assured person overall, dating can sometimes be unnerving. Especially once you grow fond of a person — in creeps the angst of hoping they feel the same way about you. In creeps the doubt, and the fear that perhaps they won’t.
The song and dance of dating can be disempowering. It’s easy to seem less comfortable in our skin during this process. We may second-guess ourselves and accentuate supposed flaws. Confidence and certainty can start to wane.
The problem is, research consistently shows that confidence is appealing in dating — while neediness and excessive insecurity are not. So, the less sure of ourselves that we feel, the less likely we are to attract the person that we want. It’s counterproductive. Our shrinking in favor of someone else is actually more likely to turn them off.
Few things mess with our self-esteem more than being shunned by the object of our affection.
We take it personally. We wonder what it is about us that repels someone — or what’s lacking that might turn them on. This thought process chips away at even the stoutest self-perception.
