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The Unconscious Patterns Keeping You Stuck in Unhealthy Relationships
We don’t just stumble into unhealthy relationships. We are drawn to them, often unconsciously, as a result of patterns deeply rooted in our past.
These patterns shape how we love, what we tolerate, and even how we define a connection. Understanding them isn’t just an intellectual exercise — it’s an awakening, a way to step into self-awareness and reclaim the power to choose healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
The Science Behind Relationship Patterns
The field of psychology has long studied why people repeat relationship dynamics, even those that bring them pain. Research in attachment theory, neuroscience, and trauma studies all point to one profound truth: our earliest relationships wire our subconscious minds.
A 2017 study published in Psychological Science found that early attachment experiences influence our ability to regulate emotions and form secure bonds later in life.
Dr. Sue Johnson, a leading researcher in emotional attachment, explains that “we are bonding mammals,” meaning our need for connection is biological. When those bonds in early life are unstable, neglectful, or chaotic, we…
