These 2 Qualities Are Last on My List When I Go on a Date
And what really counts instead.
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3 min readJul 16, 2020
After trying out the waters in different countries, on different apps, and at different ages and stages in my life, here’s what I look for on a date with a man.
- Is he a good listener?
- Is he open to new experiences or does he have a lot of fixed ideas?
- Does he empathize with me?
- Is he in touch with his emotions?
- Does he ask me about me?
- Does he have standards and boundaries — he’s not just looking for ‘any’ woman
- Do we have shared political, religious, and sexual orientations?
- Do I feel any chemistry with him?
- Does he take care of himself physically, mentally & emotionally?
- Does he have a purpose, passion, or direction to pursue in life?
The 2 things that aren’t anywhere on this list:
- Looks
- Wealth
This probably comes as a surprise, since the majority of men come to work with me thinking they’ll never find a partner because they aren’t handsome enough or rich enough, and women only want that in a man. In fact, I’m often told that women are…
