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This Will Alter Your Perception of Divorce
One simple philosophy that gave me peace.
I’m hanging out with friends in my building. We’re all divorced. It’s an average night. Or is it? Little do I know a guy is about to alter my perception of divorce.
He’s going to flip it on its head.
Me. The woman who became a love, relationship, and divorce columnist on Beliefnet a decade ago. The girl who’s devoted years to the counseling, research, and study of these topics.
I rarely hear anything new.
It’s often a regurgitation of old things.
It’s one of the reasons I strive to look beyond the obvious. It’s why I dig deeper to develop my own insights after years of study. We need more revelations about the complexity of love.
On this evening, the wine flows amongst us. We’re conversing and laughing. The mood shifts. There’s a need for emotional triage.
My guy friend tends to us.
A herd of divorce.
The peeps whose marriages have expired.
“Think of a relationship as complete instead of over,” he says. Because over implies loss and victimhood, and complete implies it served its purpose.”
