Three Controversial Opinions That Might Make Me Undatable

What does this really say about modern dating?

Crystal Jackson
Hello, Love


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I’ve always been a person with strong opinions. I know I’m not to everyone’s tastes, but I’m also not trying to be — I’m not trying to be intentionally controversial either. What I’ve always tried to do is bring my most authentic self into dating interactions. But I’m not oblivious to the fact that some of my opinions could make me undatable.

I value self-awareness, so I spent some time thinking about these opinions and how they might influence the way I’m viewed in the dating market. I should say upfront that I don’t plan on changing these opinions. I’m not ever going to change my values to be in a relationship. Besides, upon review of these “undatable” traits, I have a few questions.

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