Three Ways to Make More Love With Your Partner
Couple through mind, heart, and body.
Co-authored with Galit Romanelli, M.A.
A year after his affair, Shai shares in our clinic that he wants more sex from his wife, Maya. At first, she gets defensive but then shares that she’d rather spend the evening playing theater games she’s learned in the drama class she’s taking. As we go deeper, Shai becomes more vulnerable and confesses that what he really wants, more than sex, is for Maya to open up, share, joke. and challenge him. He looks down and shares that he wants her to see him, feel him, and be curious about him.
What we actually witnessed through this interaction was an unraveling of this couple’s desire for more lovemaking. But not in the traditional, narrow sense of sex. What they’re talking about is the trilateral lovemaking paradigm: physical (sexual), mental, and emotional lovemaking.
The three lovemaking experiences strengthen the three relationships within your marriage: lovers (sex), friends ( intimacy and friendship) and partners (household and child rearing). All three are needed for a healthy, vibrant, and intimate relationship.
