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Toxic Tactics of the Female Covert Narcissist
Their toxic tactics explained
Let’s explore the ways the female covert narcissist uses once the love bombing stage is over, and the devaluation stage has started.
The idealization and devaluation cycle is a pattern of intermittent reinforcement that deeply confuses your mind, your heart and your soul. It preys on your deepest human needs and desires, as well as on your neurological motivation and reward pathways.
So devaluation is a projection and a discharge of negative emotions that the narcissist has towards their true self. They release that on you. They discharge it on you.
It’s a defense mechanism to keep you or anyone else from getting close or recognizing their discarded and rejected self, and it is also a method of controlling you and keeping you from rejecting them.
You’ll never leave them. You’re too busy trying to prove your worth to them and eventually to yourself, dedicating all of your time, money, energy, and other resources to this puzzle that you’re trying to solve, this quest that you’re trying to conquer, and this sense that if you can prove your worth to her, you will win some grand prize, her unconditional love, and approval.
