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What Breathing Can Teach You About Relationships
And letting go.
When talking about relationships, sometimes people have trouble grasping what it means to let go. If that’s the case, I have a metaphors. Letting go is as simple as breathing; exhaling, to be precise.
The entire breathing cycle can be seen as a metaphor of relationships. You start off in need. You have desires. You believe that if you do not have this person, you will die. That’s like inhaling. You expand yourself to take this person in. You incorporate him or her into your life. You feel full.
Once you inhale, try to hold your breath. Fresh oxygen inevitably becomes suffocating carbon dioxide. You get dizzy, confused, desperate. If you persist, you’ll pass out. If you still don’t inhale, you’ll die.
The very person you desired will sooner or later becomes the source of aggravation. That thing that you once found so charming will drive you nuts. The personal quality that you did not possess, but thought your partner could provide, will not be as important as you once thought. It never really was important to you. If it was, you would’ve developed it in yourself. There will be meddlesome in-laws, misunderstandings, mismatched goals, competing careers, money problems, poor timing in sex, squally children who may not even be yours, incongruent tastes, all the…
