What You’re Really Saying When You Ghost on Someone
Your disappearing act is probably saying far more than you’re intending it to.
Romeo one minute, where’d he go the next? Ghosting is when you go poof and literally disappear out of someone’s life without a word or explanation.
Casper isn’t such a friendly ghost — he’s disrespectful, self-centered, and doesn’t have the courage or social decency to let you know directly that he’s no longer interested.
But, ladies, we aren’t angels either! We ghost too. We all are guilty of hoping someone will just get the hint and stop contacting us.
Research from the online dating site Plenty of Fish has found that of 800 millennial daters between the ages of 18–33, almost 80% of singles have been ghosted. Many of those ghosted have likely done it to someone else.
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Though daters claim they do it to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, ghosting is actually just a selfish act and easy solution to avoid broaching a difficult, emotionally wrenching conversation. We do it because it makes us feel less awkward and uncomfortable — it’s really not about taking the other person’s feelings into account at all.
