When Love Feels Like Work: Signs You’re Trying Too Hard to Make It Make Sense

If you’re constantly overanalyzing, overcompensating, and over-functioning in your relationship, it may not be love — it may be labor. Here’s how to know when you’re working too hard for something that should feel reciprocal.

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They say relationships take work. But what happens when you are the only one doing it?

What happens when you spend more time decoding texts than feeling seen? When you’re navigating his moods, managing his emotions, and motivating him to show up — while quietly neglecting your own needs?

That’s not love. That’s labor.

And if you’re exhausted, confused, and constantly questioning if you’re the problem, this article is your mirror.

The Difference Between Healthy Effort and Emotional Overwork

All relationships require intention. But there’s a fine line between contributing to a partnership and carrying it.

Healthy effort feels like teamwork. Emotional overwork feels like emotional parenting.