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Who Has It Worse?
It’s the wrong question.
By Men Living and Shaun Emerson
These days, it feels like we’re racing to prove which sex has it harder — males or females. On any given day, the media serves up plenty of fodder to feed the debate. Boys are struggling in school. No, girls are struggling in school. Boys have ADD and ADHD. Girls have ADD and ADHD. Boys battle body dysmorphia. Girls face eating disorders. Boys are anxious, depressed, and lonely. Girls are anxious, depressed, and lonely. Young men are stuck in their parents’ basements, gorging on gummies and gaming. Young women are fighting off the lecherous men who escaped their parents’ basement. Men aren’t going to college or participating in the economy. Women are going to college, working hard, but are harassed, paid less, and blocked by the old guys at the top. Old guys cling desperately to their power. Old women are desperately menopausal. Retired old men lose their identity, grow isolated, and face alarming suicide rates. Old women fight to stay relevant.
Yikes!
For the most part, I think all the above is true. So, rather than fighting about who has it worse, males or females, can we all agree that being a human being is challenging?? I propose the default human condition is chaos. Wired for survival from birth, our fight to survive is as much a fight with ourselves as it is…
