Why Avoidants Won’t Commit Even When You Do Everything Right

And 3 things you can do to improve the “situation”

Nope, don't kidnap them! Photo by Kyle Cleveland on Unsplash

While I was working, the internet connection suddenly stopped. I could see that I was still connected to the Wi-Fi. Still, there was no connection.

I restarted the router. Nothing changed. I reset the Wi-Fi connection and rejoined. Nothing happened. I restarted my laptop (I don’t know why). Still, no connection.

I checked my internet bill. It was paid.

Needless to say, I was frustrated because I had work to do. I did everything possible to “connect” to the internet.

Long story short, there was a problem with the network in my area, and the connection was restored a few hours later. So, in the end, the issue was not with my laptop, router, or internet subscriptions (the things I could work on).

There was a problem over which I had zero control. I couldn’t fix it even if I did everything possible.

Do I need to explain further? I’m not talking about my internet connection (although that was a real story). I’m talking about your “connection” with your avoidant partner (or to-be partner).