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Why Do I Miss My Abuser?
Feeling this way is actually very normal. Here’s why…
This is one of the most common questions I hear from abuse victims.
It seems to defy logic — how could we possibly miss someone who mistreated us horribly?
Our logic is telling us one thing, yet our heart tells us another.
We feel like we’re losing our minds.
Even where there is irrefutable evidence of abuse, we can still be mired in sadness, missing the person that harmed us.
“I think perhaps I will always hold a candle for you — even until it burns my hand. And when the light has long since gone …. I will be there in the darkness holding what remains, quite simply because I cannot let go.” ― Ranata Suzuki
No victim is immune to this feeling, including those that mustered the will to leave. Victims often feel a combination of confusion and shame about missing their abuser. The feeling is so strong that many run back to the abuser.
According to the Domestic Violence Prevention center, it takes the victim, on average, five to seven tries…
