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Why Don’t Men Approach?
Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold
Hey Wendy,
My friends ask if I get hit on a lot and I don’t. They are dumbfounded. They say, “I can’t believe men are not all over you because you’re strikingly beautiful.”
Men don’t approach me. Ever!
I know I must be sending out weird vibes. How can I overcome my awkward, scared nature when I am in the company of men?
Bev W
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Hey Bev,
Nothing I could tell you will encourage guys to approach you in public.
Nothing.
Never in all of history has it been tougher to meet people out in the world than it is now.
The #metoo movement has caused a new awakening around consent, which is awesome! We needed it. Long. Time. Coming. This topic has reached a tipping point, and finally, men now understand that some of their actions toward us can feel threatening.
You might be doing all the right things, like smiling at that cute stranger. But now men know that just because you’re smiling, it doesn’t mean that you want to give him your number, accept a drink, or take a dance. It might instead mean that you’re just being polite because you’re at…
