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Why Everything You Know About Female Desire Is Probably Wrong
For a long time, since ages back, there have been so many myths fed to women as far as their sexual desires are concerned.
Quite a few centuries the story was like this: women spontaneously want sex, women should also become aroused like men, and something is wrong if they do not.
Spoiler Alert: wrong.
The reality of the science behind female desire tells a much different, much more exciting story. One that not only busts the myths but also has the power to change how we perceive ourselves, our partners, and our relationships.
It begins with one radical proposition: desire works differently for women.
Myth #1: Desire should come “out of nowhere.”
We have accepted one of the biggest lies that goes: sexual desire should come all of a sudden like magic.
Suddenly, out of the blue like hunger or thirst. That’s called spontaneous desire.
Yes, some people experience that sometimes.
But here’s the big shock: most women do not.
Instead, women tend to have something called responsive desire, which means a reaction to something stimulating rather than before. In other words, you might not feel…
