Why Friendship is Mandatory in Love

The only way to know if someone can be a friend is to approach them as a friend.

Jason Henry
Hello, Love

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Photo by Alexander Popov on Unsplash

You’ve probably heard the saying, “friendship is the foundation of a good relationship.” For those of us who have heard it, and believe it, ask yourself, “Am I actually living it?”

When we meet someone we find attractive, are we gauging their ability to be a friend? Or are we focused on the romantic angle?

I remember when I was introduced to the friendzone — both the concept and the experience — in college. It was a place where your desires for sexual activity would not be met because the person you liked classified you as a friend, not a romantic partner.

As a result, you had to ensure that anyone you liked would not think of you as a friend. You had to present yourself in literally any way other than friend or buffoon. You could be mysterious, smooth, wild, aloof or even disturbed and that would keep you in the running.

Nowadays we don’t really use the term “friendzone” because that’s been absorbed by the term, “simp.”

Nevertheless, it became clear that there was a dilemma. On one hand, you have the choice to be this person’s friend in order for the relationship to have a fighting chance. On the other hand, you have to…

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Jason Henry
Hello, Love

Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”