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Why Was Everything I Loved Hurting Me?
From watching porn to my fav food.
Most of us think that the things we love never do us harm. Right? me too, i had the same thinking.
For example. I eat chicken fried rice after every workout in the evening. Felt good. Scrolling instagram in between works was a little treat to my brain. Watching porn once a week felt good too.
It was harmless to me. I was not doing anything wrong.
In fact, that was how I viewed my thinking. But slowly, almost unnoticed, dawned the realization that something was not right. More of everything started to be needed for that same little jolt of happiness. half a plate of chicken fried rice wasn’t satisfying unless the whole plate was devoured. I started consuming porn 3–4 times a week. One episode could easily turn into three or four or even five.
I’d turned free time into cheap dopamine blips.
Dopamine is the brain chemical underlying pleasure and desire. It spikes when you have a chocolate treat, win a game, or get a “like” online. But here’s the frightful news: dopamine is not just about good feelings; it is about craving more.
Really, the more I focused on easily available instant rewards, the less I even felt pleasure at all.
