Why You Feel Trapped In Your Relationship

Understanding how the victim mentality and enabling walk hand-in-hand.

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“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams: who looks inside, awakens.” ~Carl Jung

We are hardwired to prefer what is comfortable and familiar over what is healthy; this is what keeps complacency and a victim mentality in play.

Victim Mentality

When a person plays a victim, they don’t care if you tried to “save” them. Their goal is self-serving. It was never about love or being “saved”. They use people to get their own needs met…this identifies the core of narcissism.

It’s Not Love, It’s Manipulation

The Victim Mentality Prevents Growth

You Can’t Change Them

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD

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PhD, Psychology, Behavior Analyst & Certified Life Coach. Helping empower warriors with a little badassery. #INFJ. Coffee lover. Screamo/Emo music lover. 🎸🎶 ☕

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD

Written by

PhD, Psychology, Behavior Analyst & Certified Life Coach. Helping empower warriors with a little badassery. #INFJ. Coffee lover. Screamo/Emo music lover. 🎸🎶 ☕

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

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