Why You Still Crave Him Even Though He Hurt You: The Addiction to Emotional Inconsistency

If you can’t stop thinking about the man who gave you the highest highs and lowest lows, you’re not broken — you’re trauma bonded. Learn how emotional inconsistency mimics addiction and how to break free for good.

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You know he’s not good for you.

He disappears when you need him most. Comes back when you finally find your footing. Makes you feel like the most beautiful woman in the world — and then vanishes like you never existed.

And yet… you still crave him.

This article is for the women who know better but can’t seem to let go. The women who’ve read all the red flag lists, done the journaling, whispered prayers at 2 a.m., and still feel that magnetic pull toward the man who hurt them the most.

It’s not weakness. It’s not foolishness. It’s neuroscience.

Let’s talk about the very real, chemical addiction to emotional inconsistency — and how to set yourself free.

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