Your Relationships Fail Because You Are Dishonest

Jason Henry
Hello, Love
Published in
7 min readSep 22, 2023

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I got a notification from Quora yesterday. If you’re unfamiliar with the app it basically allows you to ask a question and people from all over the world can answer. I used the app frequently back in the day.

The notification I received was from a question I answered seven years ago. The question was, “How do I respond if a guy asks me to be his girlfriend? I like him a lot but I don’t know how to respond.”

I was bemused when I read it and apparently I was bemused when I answered seven years ago because I laughed and told them to just go out with the guy.

But then I realised in rereading everything that my answer was far too simple. What this person was really saying was that they were afraid of getting hurt or that something bad would happen in the relationship.

Things haven’t changed much since seven years ago. People are still afraid of relationships, or more specifically, they are afraid of not knowing how to deal with problems in a relationship.

People have been lied to, abused, cheated on, or abandoned for a myriad of reasons. People lie, abuse, cheat and abandon for a myriad of reasons. It makes sense that people would be afraid.

The real question is, “What do I have to do to be in a healthy relationship with someone I like…

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Jason Henry
Hello, Love

Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”