Your Relationships Suck But Your Friends Don’t Know Why

Jason Henry
Hello, Love
Published in
6 min readFeb 13, 2024

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I have this theory that sexual attraction is not based on the things we like about another person. We like similar values and interests. We like their body too, and yet something else is at play.

I think sexual attraction is based on what we think is taboo. To be more specific, it is based on our unconscious traits — the things we deny about ourselves or the things we don’t accept about ourselves.

The problem is that there are probably a number of things we don’t like about ourselves. Is there a specific trait that is the cause of relationship problems, or is it all of them?

Based on my observations of family, family, clients, and myself, there may be a dominant trait that is throwing your relationships into disarray. But yes, there are other issues that threaten the relationship that, if they aren’t addressed, could threaten the relationship eventually.

The focus of this post is the dominant trait that keeps you stuck in the same relationship pattern. You know the one. But what you probably don’t know is why it keeps happening.

I would suggest that the number one trait that will keep you stuck in relationship hell is never investigating anything you do, blaming everyone else, and therefore never making any personal changes.

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Jason Henry
Hello, Love

Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”