Your Situationship is Turning You into an Ass (The Buridan Kind)
Some tough love advice because I have been there.
My friend Amy* called me yesterday for some love advice. She wanted to know if she should leave Paul.*
Amy’s relationship with Paul started like most modern entanglements — vague, promising, and built on the ambiguous foundation of maybe. After a year of playing house without actually being in one, Amy wants to lock it down.
Paul? Well, Paul’s “not ready.” In those twelve months, Paul has checked every box of a committed boyfriend without committing.
They’ve traveled together, shared a Netflix account, and played nursemaid when one of them is sick. Their friend groups have become a single unit, and they even have inside jokes about who cheats more in pickleball. But despite all the cozy, couple-like behavior, Paul refuses to label what they have. No official “girlfriend” status. No Instagram posts. No introduction to his family.
Amy wants more. Paul wants more options.
The kids call Amy and Paul’s conundrum a “situationship” or “just talking” — the purgatory for the non-committal.
But let’s not throw stones at Amy and Paul from our fragile glass castles. Before I met my boyfriend, I endured an…
