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Your Top 10 Marriage Moments
Happiness studies show it takes 3–5 positive interactions to outweigh one negative one. That’s how powerful a negative experience can be.
By Lesli Doares
“ Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”
Helen Keller
For some of you, this will be easy. In fact, you might have a hard time limiting yourself to ten. In that case, Congratulations!
For others, you may struggle to name even one.
That is completely understandable if you know how your brain is wired.
Happiness studies show it takes 3–5 positive interactions to outweigh one negative one. That’s how powerful a negative experience can be.
Your brain is primed to focus on the things that you perceive as harmful. It’s how humans are designed to stay alive.
It can also mislead you into thinking things are worse than they are. Because once the negative slant takes over, it can be extremely difficult for the positive moments to register. (Hence the above ratio.)
If you can turn your attention to finding the positive interactions, your view of your marriage can…