Do You Have a Spouse…or a Roommate?
It is amazing how your life changes when you embrace the reality that you’re better than the life you’ve settled for. -Steve Maraboli
Many of us are sleepwalking through our relationships.
We are there, but not really. We show up, but our heart isn’t in it. We make small talk. We are polite. We split the chores. We split the bills. We check the boxes.
But we feel nothing.
Psychologists call it a “roommate marriage”. This is an arrangement, not a true connected partnership. It starts to feel normal to operate in a state of bored detachment. Life doesn’t hold the excitement it once did. So many modern relationships have become nothing more than a transaction.
And inevitably, you end up asking the question. That one ponderous, relentless, heartbreaking question. Is this all there is?
Maybe you are too scared to ask out loud. Maybe you are too protective of the relationship to even voice the thought to a friend. So it rattles around in your head, alone and unanswered. And you question if there is something wrong with you. You criticize yourself. Why am I not satisfied?
It’s not in your head…the dissatisfaction is real. There are unmistakable signs…
