Member-only story
You’re The Whole Damn Cake, a Relationship is Just The Icing
You were always complete on your own.
“You’re my missing puzzle piece. I’m complete.” — Katy Perry
Bullshit.
Why do so many single people tend to feel like shit about themselves and desperate to get into any kind of relationship?
Because of this shit right here.
The notion of this lyric implies you’re incomplete without a significant other. And you’re not. You’re a whole, complete person all on your own.
You’re already cake. A great relationship is just icing on that cake. And that’s a sentiment I can get behind.
The idea you’re missing something without a significant other in your life destroys self-esteem and self-worth, leaves you feeling empty and hollow in your being and in your heart.
It hurts, man. I know all too well.
I’ve been single for far longer than I’ve been in all my relationships combined, and for an entire period I call my 30s. It sucks balls to feel insufficient, off, and like there’s something wrong with you. It’s a weight falsely placed on your shoulders by bullshit romantic notions.