Don’t Ask Someone Else. — If you were REALLY that concerned for your friend, you’d be speaking to them. You’re not in their brain, so you have no basis for assuming you know how they’re doing. Because you can’t assume, the last thing you should be doing is discussing how they’re doing with a friend. …

People will always have opinions, but the best leave is the one that works best for you. — TW: This piece discusses pregnancy and miscarriage. I am a mother of three (soon to be 4) children. I am also an ambitious, accomplished professional, married to an ambitious, accomplished professional. If you’ve ever become pregnant while working, you’ve had to make decisions around how much leave to take, and…

Build your reader-writer relationship with these 10 questions. — The reader-writer relationship is one I honour to my core. Without you, I am nothing more than a self-involved journal sharer. I am nothing more than an egotistical maniac. I am nothing. Without you reading these words, I don’t exist. Dramatic? A little. But true nonetheless. It is the way…

Reflecting on relationships and the one that matters most — “Sorry… can’t make it.” It was the third time I said no to an evening out. The guilt of being unavailable was starting to gnaw at me. It wasn’t that I was working late or had other plans. I just didn’t feel like it. The thought of getting dressed and…

It’s not always fun, but it is always worth it. — If you’re already convinced that you want to start annual planning, I describe exactly how to do it (and share some of my past plans) here. Why My Partner and I Started Planning Eric and I met at an orientation event on the first day of university. I was seventeen — that was half my lifetime ago. …

How labeling your physical feelings in 90 seconds can help you move through it — For most of my life I’ve been a problem solver. As a kid I enjoyed “making something from nothing” and using what materials I had to create art. …

How I sacrifice personhood for clothing. — You deserve to treat yourself by refreshing your look. Everyone wants these timeless, wardrobe-essentials. Fashion is how you express yourself. You can return whatever you don’t like later, but I promise, you’ll love how you feel. By the way, we’re almost sold out. Almost verbatim, this is how I would…

If you’re considering it, here’s what you need to know — I was 30 years old when I first thought about freezing my eggs. Newly divorced and not interested in dating (I’m still not), I was looking for an option to buy myself time to find a partner before my biological clock called it quits. With each passing birthday and the…

Is making friends supposed to feel like I’m trying to convince a club bouncer that my name is on the list? Friendship — It’s the hottest party of the century! Sure, once in a while, I can get in. …