just not that into you
Within the universe of possible loves, this is one of those truths that everyone needs to hear at least once, at some point in their lives. Or more. Because moments, let’s face it, most of the time walk apart, each one with a certain person. And even if you live that something together with a group, will be different for each of those people involved.
In English there is a perfect word to describe these particular space-time encounters (or mismatches). Timing. I’ve never found a better word or expression in any other language to explain why sometimes everything and everyone seems synchronized to work out. Or in a number that seems to me more frequent, when everything seems so perfect on one side, but often the history ends (or does not even begin) because the other part is not there — ready, present, in tune.
He or she is just not that into you.
It’s that old story of Carlos who loved Maria who wanted Pedro who cries for Julia and so on. The lack of timing makes everything go wrong including what could work in another scenario.
World goes and comes around. And what usually happens is that when Julia finds out that Pedro was her love, he already met Sandra, they had two beautiful children and a house with a yard. Or when Maria decides to look with more loving eyes to Carlos, he moved to Tibet because he discovered that his vocation was to be a monk. There are countless examples. You must remember some. Maybe you’ve lived one or more of them to tell.
Doesn’t matter. In this world where we spend all our time chasing after things, goals, people — which are often not worth the investment, we choose priorities. We make choices without stopping.
See that series that everyone is talking about and looks great or sleeping because you want to rest a little more? Eat that bundle of cookies that is in the closet and be happy that night or make that healthy recipe you wanted to try and call a friend to have a laugh together? Go out with a lot of people at the same time to fill your needs and have nothing but sex back or invite that person with whom you connected so much on that first date and forget all those tempting possibilities?
There’re no right answers.
Each person has priorities and will make choices based on them. That’s the only truth, the root of everything that happens in life. So if someone wants to be with you, he or she will move in that direction. If that person can not say its feelings for you directly, he or she will find some other way to do that. Write, call, find the time.
If that doesn’t happen, even if you have already given all the signs — clear and loud, it doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t care about you, or doesn’t like you. Maybe it’s just in that specific moment he/she is not that into you in order to choose walk beside you.
Maybe another time, another day, in another piece of space-time. Because love stories can be like giant wheels that stop at the perfect place and time. Or maybe never. Because the line walks and so do you.
Oh, timing… it’s really a bitch. Or isn’t.
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[This is an English version from the original article > [elx não está tão a fim de você]
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