Surviving Dissolution

Austin Mortel
Sep 2, 2018 · 2 min read

Part I: The Beginning

Photo by Kinga Cichewicz on Unsplash

De·ni·al -/dəˈnīəl/ — the action of declaring something to be untrue.

The toughest part of any ending, this is where it has just recently happened maybe a day ago, an hour ago or a couple of minutes ago. The phase of accepting isn’t even there yet, you’re in confusion and shocked of what just happened. You can’t accept yourself that something you once had is gone now and can’t be retrieved anymore. You tell yourself that you might be just dreaming and all of it is just happening in your head but as time rolls past you slowly realize the bitter truth. The first couple of days is the hardest, it still hurts you deep inside, you can’t even rationalize your actions.

Be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to feel some of that hope but also acknowledge that it may not be based in reality but instead in your own denial. Just be with the feelings without making too much out of them.

Be kind but firm. If the relationship really is over, you need to reiterate that in no uncertain terms. If you see a future friendship one day, you can say that but you need to be very clear that the romantic connection is over for good. If you yourself are unsure, you need to say that you’re unsure but that at this time the relationship is over.

Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. know your worth even if they don’t”

Walk worthy of the calling of which you were called. — Ephesians 4:1

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A Collection of Poetry, Stories and Ideas. Header photo by Photo by Jack B on Unsplash. All stories, poems and series are written by Austin Mortel or otherwise noted. ©2018

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A Collection of Poetry, Stories and Ideas. Header photo by Photo by Jack B on Unsplash. All stories, poems and series are written by Austin Mortel or otherwise noted. ©2018

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