You have to move forward. Because you can’t go back.
Moving forward is one of the hardest parts of living.
Moving forward means that you have to let go of the person you have worked to become. It means that you have to let go of the person you thought you desperately needed to be.
Moving forward means accepting that you could lose everything, while gaining little more than a few new experiences.
I have always believed in keeping an eye on my old self.
There’s a Joan Didion quote I love:
“…I think we are well-advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not.
Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 a.m. of a bad night and demand to know who deserted them, who betrayed them, who is going to make amends.
We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget. We forget the loves and the betrayals alike, forget what we whispered and what we screamed, forget who we were.”
And yet, all the same, that person that we once were — they can’t maintain a strong hold on us forever. Even though we may damage our chance at happiness, nothing could ever do so more than trying to fight change, trying to fight our future.
In every moment of happiness, we want to freeze time.
But looking back, the moments when time really did freeze are never the happy ones.
Change is coming. It always is.
It isn’t about how you can stop it.
It’s how you can adapt.
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