Seeking solitude in the midst of a world of ever-increasing noise is often challenging. When looking at our many obligations, the continuous accumulation of tasks for which we are responsible, and details requiring our immediate attention, creating time for contemplation seems hedonistic.
Questioning whether to take the time needed, or whether space and attention truly are gifts we should grant ourselves, are symptoms of a larger issue. We live in a noisy world, and our need for solitude often goes ignored. Thoughtful space and time to consider are necessary for everyone. When we live with too little of it, it reflects on our health, temperament, and often in our relationships.
If we find ourselves lacking the patience to deal with children, significant others, or loved ones, it may be because we do not disconnect enough from everything and everyone to give ourselves a moment. Checking email before brushing teeth and texting upon waking do not inspire moments of quiet. After becoming accustomed to denying ourselves the ability to reflect, we think it a tremendous feat. We brag about how hard we grind, and stress ourselves to cherish the fact that we give ourselves little. This does not last in the long-run. Solitude is important and necessary for long-term growth. There are three relatively easy ways to create space daily.
Become an early-riser.
It hurts, but getting up early may be the best thing you’ve ever done for yourself. Rising before everyone else has the effect of giving space and opportunity to reflect. You create time to think before taking the dog out, or before the kids bombard you with questions about hanging with friends and attending events. Waking before the sun is beneficial because most people are still resting (even nature is quiet) and there are little interruptions.
You may use this time to ask yourself questions about your intention for the day, why you are grateful, or to evaluate what you hope to accomplish. You can stretch, exercise, meditate, read, write, and pray. You have the chance to use your silence for reflection and solitude, and for building your life intentionally. Spending time with yourself can be about focusing on increasing that solo energy, and existing in the present.
Meditation is an extraordinary way to find solitude. It expands on the power of presence by focusing you on just being. Using reflection to seek silence in the world strengthens our ability to accept ourselves and consider others. Morning meditation is especially helpful in reconciling your desires with your current state.
Meditation takes you outside of the problem or obstacle you may be facing, by giving attention to an essential exercise that allows you to experience everything that you do: breathing. That problem will likely exist after you take your moment of solitude, but your reaction to it can completely shift if you focus on presence, and reflect on how much agency you have to control your own reactions and being. Focusing on a challenge or a circumstance that persists in our lives, gives us the opportunity to contemplate a way to address it.
Solitude means that you have the ability to be. You don’t fear a quiet moment; you embrace it. In an ever-connected world, where we can use devices even while we are standing in line, or listen to music while we are walking 300 yards, it is beneficial to step back and get silence. Silence encourages reflection. Reflection inspires relaxation and even sparks creativity.
Writing daily to gain solitude is helpful. Writing can inspire creativity because often inspiration comes from quiet moments of reflection. When we are moving from one objective to another and attempting to check items off of lists, or meetings off of calendars, we stifle our ability to reflect on what comes next, but writing focuses you to engage the quiet voice in your head, and to ask yourself questions.
Reflection powerfully inspires art and inspires ourselves — you may decide to journal or write creatively. In those quiet moments, we may ask ourselves about problems we are currently attempting to solve, and we might find solutions. In moments of solitude, we can create campaigns to improve our existence. The questions we ask ourselves about how to address certain areas of our lives will often answer themselves if we give them space to appear. When you create space to explore and examine, solutions often emerge where problems previously existed.
Solitude is a gift you give yourself. Looking for daily opportunities to practice provides chances to delve into the recesses of our minds. There, we may contemplate the mysteries of life or the complicated relationship we might have with someone we love. Though ten minutes each morning won’t likely overcome the differences in opinion or mentality, you might be able to build on your store of compassion and patience. Perhaps you can use them both when engaging with those who matter most to you.
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