The Four Agreements: Make Each Work Day Fun & Exciting

Do you want to start really living and experiencing “real” personal freedom? Not just talk about it, but actually DO it! First thing you need to do is read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The Four Agreements are:
 
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

I am fortunate that I wake up each morning to the sight and sound of a beautiful little six-year old daughter whose positive energy I feed off and a four-year-old handsome boy who makes me laugh all the time.

But when our kids or things that make us happy are not around, we still have to figure out how to keep that light shining brightly and rise above. It’s not easy and takes conscious work.
 
There are certainties in life we can’t avoid. We have to pay the bills, we have to parent our kids, and we have to go to work. And we are going to have to deal with difficult people.

Instead of sulking about these activities, why not do it with a smile? 75% of people whine and complain, that’s too easy! Be better than that!
 
Start tomorrow. The waking up part is hard, I get it! But once you take your morning shower, drink your first cup of coffee, and get outside, it’s time to play the game! 
 
Walk into work and smile at each person and ask them how their day is going. Most people will ignore you, that’s okay, don’t take it personally. It’s their problem, not yours. You will be surprised that some people actually will perk up and have a nice conversation with you.
 
When others ask how you are doing, don’t say ”Good”, or is it Friday yet? Instead, say awesome, great, or fantastic, whether it’s true or not. Doesn’t matter!
 
When somebody asks you what’s going on? Don’t say the usual “Nothing” or is it Friday yet? Say “Everything” with a big grin.
 
Do the job they pay you to do to the best of your abilities but also take some time during the day and be creative. Perhaps write a short story, or make up a silly game.
 
Throughout the rest of the day, perhaps email or text a friend you haven’t seen in awhile. Tell them how something you saw or heard that reminded you of that special person. They might never respond. Who cares? And if they do respond, I bet it will make you smile. Perhaps you can even meet up soon and reconnect. It will give you something to look forward to.
 
Do something amazing! Don’t waste energy or time complaining or reading your news feed about another school shooting or Donald Trump. And stay away from people that don’t appreciate you. Make an impact!
 
The best time is now!!! Your happiness and desire to try something new is the perfect reward for me to keep writing. You can also choose to ignore me and continue being miserable. That’s fine, just stay away, please!

“There are no problems, only opportunities for growth!” — Michael Hersh

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MJ is a good friend of mine (in real life not internet life) who helps people ranging from the A-type who just wants more money, no mental blocks and maximum performance, to those stuck in the mundanity of being chained to their desk and wanting out, right through to trauma survivors trying to find themselves again. He jumped at the idea to gift every reader of my work an hour of his time. All you have to do is email him: mj@mjfitzpatrick.com