5 Easy Steps to Stop Dwelling on Emotional Issues — By Adam Baldwin
Do you sometimes find yourself ruminating about past hurts? You’re thinking about that argument at work. It is 1.30 in the morning and you are still thinking about it? Have you ever wished there was a way to help you clear your mind of it?
Dwelling on negative emotions can make you lose sleep, cause restlessness and increase frustration. It eats up massive amounts of your time and it is in fact impossible to be happy whilst dwelling on past pains.
If left unchecked, dwelling on your negative thoughts can lead to a loss of confidence, self-worth and, in extreme cases, depression. This can have a knock-on effect in all aspects of your life.
There is however a practical way that you can stop this issue. It is easy, effective and if done regularly can maintain a better balance in your life. I call it the Mindful Emotional process.
As a teacher of Meditation and Mindfulness, I have often been surprised by how some of the simplest techniques can be life-altering. It was during my time working with a woman who had obsessive thoughts of their ex-partner that I first noticed this. This client was unable to get through the day without hoping that she would receive a call from her ex, despite knowing full well that this would not happen. This longing became a craving which she could not control, gradually tearing down her self-esteem. By employing the Mindful Emotion process, I was able to assist in creating a space between her and her thoughts. This helped her to manage her emotions more easily. She was finally able to see when her obsessive thinking would arise and know how to neutralize it. The ability to recognize that you are not your thoughts but the observer of them creates great freedom!
Mindfulness and Meditation has come under a lot of scientific scrutiny over the past 4 decades. Over 3,500 peer-assessed papers have praised its effectiveness. Large corporations and celebrities have adopted it into their lives (some even accrediting Meditation as the source of their success).
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It all starts with acceptance.
To approach an issue positively is to acknowledge it. It is ok to say, ‘I am hurting’. Accept the pain. Accepting it creates new ground for a new relationship with it. As opposed to struggling with it and fighting it (creating further inner conflict), acceptance opens space to handle this problem with greater creativity!
Acceptance disrupts the pattern of hurt by saying ‘I’m going to look at this in a different light’, and allowing you to take an observer’s stance as opposed to a participant’s role. Treat it not as an oppressor but as something to study.
The Mindful Emotion process removes you from the problem and places you high above it. By releasing you from the tyranny of the emotional pain, you can observe the thoughts for what they are — passing sensations. You get to experience the thoughts in your mind without getting caught up in them and see how they feel in your body. You start to understand how these feelings rise and fall. As your understanding of your own emotions develops you become more aware of your moods; this awareness puts you in the driver’s seat of your life. You are no longer managed by your negative emotions; it is you who manages them.
In adopting Mindful practices, you are able to maintain a greater mental balance in life. If you are interested in finding out more, please go to my link below and download 5 easy steps to stop dwelling on emotional issues.
Adam is a certified independent teacher of Transcendental Meditation, Mindfulness facilitator, and Reiki Master. Teaching his processes internationally, both face-to-face and online, he is now based in Sydney, with a large client base in London. His goal is to improve your life with simple and powerful meditation techniques.
Edited by Lola Sherwin.
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