Men Contribution to Household

Concept: Puri Peethadhishwar Jagadguru Shankaracharya Swami Nishchalananda Saraswati Ji Maharaj

Credits: Aditya Kashyap Ji

When a lady is earning her livelihood like a man, why should the ladies perform the household chores?

Alright, there is no need for the Home Ministry! This is what we want. We want a Home but we do not want a Home Minister! The husband is employed, the wife is also employed then why should the wife be devoted to the husband. So you took the relationship in this sense that a wife should only be devoted to her husband only when she is dependent for her livelihood on the latter.

Is it Artha-Shashtra or Dharma-Shashtra? This has no relationship whatsoever with Dharma. This directly infers that the Husband-Wife relationship is more economical and not Dharmic. The meaning of the Husband-Wife relationship is based on Dharma and is sanctioned by the Vedas and other similar Shastras.

This is the Communist mindset that their relationship is based on livelihood. They should together engage in trade, should together be employed. This confusion is created to show the economic relationship between husband and wife. This is the first fallacy that the relationship is based on the economic aspect. Then, subsequently, it will go into the next generation that the son and daughter in law should both be employed. So, if the two are employed and economically independent, why should they serve their parents? Then, what else lies in the fate of the old except to cry! Even from the psychological perspective, it makes a hell out of a home.

What does this mean? We are not concerned here with exceptional circumstances. If the couple is employed out of their interest, engage in trade then their children will be brought up by the maid and servants. They would grow up as irritated and peevish, would never be devoted to their parents. In such cases, even those born in wealthy families, they are not feeling better than orphans. These days, neither the mother nor the father has the time to educate, nurture, and civilize a child. This is a situation similar to the western world as is prevalent among birds and animals. In the animal world, how long does the relationship between parents and children last?

Subsequently, neither the husband remains a husband, nor the wife remains a wife and not even the child remains a child. Is this the way we wish to take our human relationships and society altogether? Hence, there is a need to get away with such misconceptions that convert the husband-wife relationship economically. In fact, it should be based on our Dharma.

Abiding by the dharma we can reach sad-gati (noble attainment). On the other side, there is no guarantee in following the economical structure. Dooms and depressions are inherent through these methods of relationship. From the worldly viewpoint, if both the husband and the wife retire, who will serve whom, when both of them are entitled to pensions! Again, when the children grow up and mature, they are employed, their wives are also employed. Then, there is no reason behind giving food-clothing-residence to their parents or parents-in-law; since they are both financially independent. Finally, the lives of the old will be dependent on the old-age homes and servants! How will such a life be?

Again, why should the son perform shraddha rites? They have earned their wealth out of their own efforts, why should they perform shraddha? Why should perform tarpana? If all these stands are not true in your view, then how can we preserve the inheritance? Everything shall be extinct. Hence, we have the Dharmic basis for the relationships and not an economical basis.

Narayana !!!