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Long-Distance Dating Advice For Quarantined Relationships

How to survive being a world apart

Beth van der Pol
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5 min readJan 8, 2021

Full disclosure. I am not currently in a long-distance relationship, but my husband and I were so I know how to survive one.

I desperately hoped that by the time I got around to writing this article, it could just be about dating normally in a long-distance relationship. The pandemic had other plans. My procrastination and hope have made this post late, and for that, I am deeply sorry.

Here are some of the things my husband and I did to help survive a long-distance relationship.

Talk every day.

There might’ve been a few days where we skipped this one, but generally, we talked not only every day but almost all of the time.

Some days we would spend seven hours+ on Skype.

We didn’t talk for all of that time, but it did feel like we were together.

We could do our own separate thing, make comments and quips as we felt like it but for the most part, it was kind of like we were in our living room across from each other working separately.

I think this is what made it feel like a real relationship. Now I’m not saying you have to spend hours on Skype but making the time to send a good morning text or going to sleep and saying goodnight is a good way to let you know you’re thinking of them.

It gave us a sense of togetherness that really established us as a unit. Knowing that we thought of each other often really made it work.

Take your own space.

This one needed to be right at the top to contradict the first statement.

I’m a firm believer in being your own person in a relationship. While it’s important to spend that quality time and let each other know you are loved, it is also important to do your own thing.

Be your own person.

Not only will this give you time to breathe in the relationship, but it gives you interesting things to talk about. How was your pottery class? How was your walk?



Beth van der Pol

Writer and author with an MA in creative writing, sharing knowledge and teaching techniques to level up your writing! Find me at