I Want My Kids To Experiment With Sex

When they are ready, of course

Jessica Hillis
Jan 7 · 3 min read

ex wasn’t talked about much when I was growing up. Sure, I was told how babies were made but that was about the extent of it for me. Oh, and you only have sex when you are married.

And that was that. Here’s how you have sex but don’t do it until you are married. Being the goody goody that I was, I planned on doing that. To make a long story short, I didn’t lose my virginity until much later in life.

I Was Clueless About Sex

When I did finally have sex, I had no idea what I was doing. At the age I was, I should have know what was going on but I didn’t. That’s not to say I didn’t enjoy my first time. I did and it made me realize what I had been missing out on.

I also remember being much older than “normal” the first time I masturbated. Obviously that was not something my mom or dad ever brought up. I didn’t even know it was a thing.

I didn’t know what the word orgasm meant. I didn’t know what a clitoris was or the type of impact it can have during sex. Sex was to make babies, not to get pleasure. To say I was naive is an understatement.

And you know what? I regret not knowing all of this sooner. I regret trying to be a good girl and waiting so long to discover how much I enjoy having sex. I believe everyone should have a fulfilling sex life and I didn’t for a long time.

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Sex Isn’t A Dirty Word

This is why I want to be more open with my kids about all things sex. I want them to explore what sex is all about sooner than I did. I want them to know how much fun they can have with it.

They are still pretty young now so it will be a while before they will start to experiment. In that time I will make sure to teach them about consent and safe sex practices. It isn’t a free for all! I’ll make sure they know this.

I won’t push the “no sex before marriage” agenda. To me, that doesn’t seem realistic. You should be allowed to test the waters as long as you want with whoever you want.

I feel you should have an emotional attachment to have sex with someone but ultimately, that is your personal choice. What works for me doesn’t work for everyone.

I Want Them To Live Life Without Regret

Sex is a major part of your life that should be explored. I feel like I missed out on a lot of time that could have been used to explore that part of me. I feel like I am making up for lost time now.

I want to keep an open line of communication with my kids. I don’t want sex to be something they feel ashamed of. I want them to know that sex is an important part of a relationship.

Perhaps if I had know about all of this sooner, I could have saved myself a lot of grief, embarrassment, and regret. I don’t want my kids to feel that way when it comes to their sex life.

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Jessica Hillis

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Writer and mother. I try to keep it real because I’m not “loving every moment”. Follow me https://twitter.com/3282jessicah or email hillis33@gmail.com

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