Relationships Cannot Be Tailor-Made
This week’s Theme : Relationship and Self-Awareness
“Don’t settle for a relationship
that won’t let you be yourself.”
— Oprah Winfrey
What is a relationship? Is it personal or social? Not so easy to reply but I’d like to reply, ‘both at the same time, just like the rotation of the earth, which not only revolves around the sun, but it also revolves around itself’. This is a space where ‘I’ should have been replaced by ‘Us’ and love is the indispensable ingredient in preparation of a relationship.
Unfortunately, we know in many cases one partner is or was forced to change herself or himself according to demand of their other half, here I always want to avoid the pair of word ‘better half’ as I’m in a confusion to decide which half is better than whom! They don’t admit the fact that says partners are not our properties (usually movable, sometimes immovable also)! As a result, willingly or unwillingly you lose yourself gradually.
So, we must understand that dominance is not love. Let me ask you a simple question, ‘If I always have to please my partner then is it justified to call it a loving relationship?’
So, we need to have awareness about relationships. We must be careful to protect our relationships to live a happy and successful life. one should be vigilant of those symptoms that may spoil a relationship. Perhaps almost everyone knows them, I am not going to mention those here.
Precaution is better than cure. So, it is better when we think about our future relationship before we decide to enter into it (They too may be known to many, still I feel to elaborate them to go ahead with my story). While entering into a relationship one should whether verify following three factors match between the couple:
1. Likes & dislikes
2. Targets
3. Sex
Another important tip: be the partner you want. But sometimes you get no positive response from other half which makes you depressed. Suppose you are a connoisseur of art want to enjoy something while your partner may be least interested in them, be sure he or she will not come to the show with you and never expect a compliment from your painting either.
If love is a cheeseburger, sex is the sauce. Cheeseburger can be eaten without sauce but if sauce is added it tastes more. But do not eat a burger by pressing it in milk, it doesn’t fit in. So, never even try to match burger with milk!
You may go on verify all these factors and even beyond them, whatever methods available in open market but my experiences tell me that there are no people in this world to fit into another. Possibly these are utopian ideas which stands far away from the real world. Then what to do? Is there no possibility to build a successful and happy relationship? Don’t worry, nothing like that.
One of best options available is mutual understanding and adjustment but that too may not work up to our expectation. But take it for granted, you cannot have a tailor-made happiness (or relationship). you have to build up happy nest and decorate its interior as per your choice. Happiness is also a relative matter and vary from person to person. So, you are the best judge here.
To conclude the story, I would like to share the moral of a Russian story with you that I had read in my childhood days. Once upon a time God was busy in producing human bodies along with all commodities, they would require in their everyday life after coming to the earth. Human bodies such prepared surprised to discover that God has handed them over all finished items except the last one, which he had given in form of a lump.
They wondered what that was and more importantly how on the earth it could be used! In his reply to the question asked by them God explained, “This is your happiness my children. You and only you can give a perfect shape of your happiness by using this ‘raw material’ as per your choice.”
Moral of the children’s story is so clear that needs no explanation. So, have a nice time and enjoy a happy relationship in your personal life. If you like the story please let me know through your valuable response.
Have a nice time!
Liberty Forrest : Thanks for sharing the information about the weekly theme and for inviting me to participate in this event.
You may also like to read the recently published story written by Jasmin Wolff in Medium.
