When Someone Doesn’t Value You, It Doesn’t Mean You Aren’t Worthy
To be beautiful means to be yourself, you don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to be accepted by yourself — Thich Nhat Hanh
It brings aching sadness when you realize that someone closest to you is not giving you the value you deserve. And they make you feel like your presence means nothing to them.
You start to feel invisible, like all the efforts you put in, all the kindness you serve, and all the love you offer disappear into a void where they go unnoticed.
But the truth is simple: “When someone doesn’t value you, it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy.”
In my memory, there are some relationships in which I was always making great efforts to adjust and accommodate them. I was always making myself available for them when they needed me. I would rearrange my schedule and offer my time and support whenever they called, dropping everything. But no matter how much I devoted myself to them, they consistently failed to appreciate my presence.
If they weren’t appreciating me, then that must mean that I wasn’t doing enough.
So, I kept telling myself that maybe I just had to try harder. Maybe my efforts were not enough. So, I dedicated myself completely to these relationships. If I could be more loving, giving, and perfect only then people will see my worth.
Sometimes, no matter how much it hurts, we need to accept that it is not necessary that the people whom we love and value, also give us the same value.
Our value doesn’t decrease just because someone fails to appreciate it.
I remember one day, sitting alone after yet another disappointment and something clicked. That they didn’t see my worth wasn’t a problem with me. Maybe they didn’t know how to appreciate what I had to offer or they were too caught up in their own lives to notice. But their oversight didn’t define my worth.
I was worthy not because of anything they determined, but because I existed, because I loved, because I cared deeply, and because I showed up-even when no one asked me to. I started seeing myself through my own eyes and not theirs.
Our uniqueness is like a flower that blooms in the middle of the forest and if someone doesn’t admire it, it does not lose its beauty. It blossoms in its own unique manner, whether or not it is seen.
Being worthy isn’t about being needed or validated by someone else. It’s about knowing you matter just because you are you. It’s about learning, deep down, that you matter just as you are. The right people will see it, yes, but even if they don’t, that doesn’t make you any less. It just means they aren’t capable of recognizing your light.
In a world filled with voices, my own voice has finally found a place.
It is clear, steady, and resounding, “I am worthy. Worthy of love, worthy of art, worthy of my own wild and precious life”.
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