How To Stop Feeling Stuck In Life

Looking at life as lessons, be open-minded, and try things out.

Felix Cabrera
Jan 13 · 5 min read
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Do you feel stuck?

Do you wake up in the morning feeling lost and unmotivated? How about feeling like you have tried anything, but your life doesn’t change?

No worries, I understand. I believe that feeling stuck in life is normal. We can all experience it from time to time as human beings.

However, as I have learned through the years, the key is not to stay in that state of mind.

So, I have learned ways to overcome this period of feeling stuck and making progress in my life.

Thus, I wanted to share them with you.

Look At Events As Lessons

The first thing I have learned to get unstuck in your life is to look at any traumatic event in your life as a lesson. Maybe you lost your job, your spouse left you, or you can’t lose weight.

Instead of looking at the past from a victim’s perspective, that is, having a victim mentality, try to learn from it.

Ask yourself why this event happened to you and try to identify what you could have done differently, so you can learn from it and not repeat the same behavior next time a situation like this comes around.

Try to find the hidden (or not so hidden) lesson from this experience.

For instance:

Your boyfriend/girlfriend left you


Possible reasons:

  • He/she cheated on you.
  • You weren’t compatible.
  • You spent a lot of time working but didn’t invest quality time in the relationship.

Lessons behind it:

  • You know what you don’t tolerate in a relationship.
  • You are moving one step closer to finding a person that has the qualities that you desire and align with you.
  • You need to find a way to balance your work and personal life, so this doesn’t happen again in your next relationship.

I am no relationship expert. This is just an example to illustrate how you can transform the potential negative situation into a positive one.

On the other hand, if we focus on the negative and wallow in it, then the chances of moving forward are slim.

You may start feeling sad, depressed, and stay there. That is not the key to success to stop feeling stuck. You need to learn the lesson, find the strength, and move forward.

I know this may not be easy at first, but start small and give it a try, you never know what you may learn about yourself along the journey.

You can move towards a stronger, resilient, and wiser version of yourself. You may realize that you are stronger than you think.

Come on. You can do it!

Be Open-Minded

Another lesson I have learned through my life is that we may feel stuck as a result of our past behaviors and actions.

We may become so busy with things in our lives that we may act automatically without even realizing it. This is not always bad. It may lead to results you desire by having a healthy routine.

However, if the habits and actions you take are not aligned to the life you desire, and you are not achieving any results. Then, the actions you are taking are hurting your progress, not helping you.

You might be sabotaging yourself, and you don’t even know it.

If we don’t identify these habits, we are just going to keep doing them over and over again. Hence, repeating the same cycle and staying stuck in our lives.

“We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.”

― Sheryl Sandberg

If this is the case, then here are some things I have done:

  • Identify the actions or behaviors that are keeping you stuck.
  • Stop (or reduce) doing these actions.
  • Ask for feedback from people who you love and care about.

The idea is to have an open mind. If you close off any other possibilities or different courses of action, then you will repeat the same activities and stay stuck.

By identifying the actions that are keeping you stuck, you are becoming aware of what is holding you back. A thing you can do is self-reflect on the actions you take every day.

Once you are aware, you can change it or stop performing the behaviors that are keeping you stuck.

Try New Things Without Setting Expectations

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Now that you have identified the actions that are holding you back try doing new things. Also, try not to set expectations for any results.

What I have learned from getting unstuck is that when you do feel stuck, you may lose motivation and develop a not so positive mindset.

So, by setting expectations, this might hinder your success. You may lose the desire to try new things out and move towards your old, more comfortable ways.

Thus, try not to have them at the start.

“I find my life is a lot easier the lower I keep my expectations.”
― Bill Watterson

Now, by trying new things and having no expectations, you are opening yourself to new possibilities. You never know, you might find the breakthrough you need by doing something outside of your comfort zone.

Try to look at the situation as an experiment, just like a scientist would do. Try new things, gather information, and use it to your advantage. You might gain some critical insights about yourself along the way.


Feeling stuck in life is okay; there is nothing to be ashamed about. Nonetheless, the key to success is not staying in that state.

The first thing you can do is try and look at the events that caused you to feel stuck as lessons. Learn from them, gain the wisdom behind them, and move on. It may be hard at the beginning but is worth it.

Having an open mind can help you become aware of the actions that are keeping you stuck. Hence, opening the door to stop these behaviors and take positive action.

Try new things out. They might lead you to the breakthrough you need in your life. Thus, finding things that work in your life and move from being stuck.

Have the mindset of a scientist, treat the situation as an experiment, try something, and gather information.

This information might help you in the next phase of your life.

Disclaimer: I am not a mental health, counseling, dating or relationship professional. These tips and advice are based on my experience and opinion as a student, tutor, teacher, and software developer. Everyone is different, so, the advice shared in this article may or may not work for you.

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Felix Cabrera

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A.k.a. Felix The Dev. Software Developer. Writer, programming teacher, tutor, and coach.

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