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How to Take Your Sexual Fulfillment into Your Own Hands

Because no relationship is more important than the one you have with yourself

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I have always struggled with my romantic relationships. You could say that all of them took more than they gave me (which is more of a condemnation of my low standards and questionable self-esteem than of my exes).

Over the years, as I’ve become increasingly independent (financially and otherwise), I’ve discovered that I am much happier on my own than I am in a relationship that doesn’t embrace all of who I am. I’m more fulfilled as a single woman than as the girlfriend of someone who falls on the floor and hyperventilates when the word “commitment” comes up. And I’m definitely better off by myself than with someone who verbally and/or physically abuses me.

But there’s more to it than that.

I don’t want to simply be satisfied with being single just in the cases where the only other option is a substandard relationship. No…I want to fully release my expectation of how romantic and sexual fulfillment will look. I want to be so free that I can achieve that fulfillment no matter what.

I want to let go of any barrier to experiencing all the joy and pleasure that I desire — regardless of my…