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Who Are You When No One Is Watching — And Why That Matters

Darren Stehle 🏳️‍🌈
Human-Hearted Leadership
4 min readMar 27, 2025

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Have you ever heard the term virtue signalling?

I’m sure you have. It’s everywhere on social media — people saying things to make themselves appear more ethical, morally superior, or better than someone else.

But here’s the real question:

What do they do, and how do they behave in private — when no one is watching?

The choices we make when no one is watching are the truest representation of our ethics and moral code.

Morals usually refer to an individual’s personal beliefs about right and wrong, influenced by factors like society, culture, and upbringing.

Ethics, on the other hand, are guidelines — a system of moral principles or values — established by communities, groups, politics, and religions outlining acceptable and unacceptable actions and behaviours.

Have you ever done something you knew was wrong but did it anyway — because you realized no one would ever find out?

And so, you did it. How did that make you feel?

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Darren Stehle 🏳️‍🌈
Darren Stehle 🏳️‍🌈

Written by Darren Stehle 🏳️‍🌈

I coach LGBTQ+ leaders to embody compassion, conviction, and purpose—to create meaningful change that honours dignity and humanity. DarrenStehle.com