Why you’re not staying motivated
…and what to do about it
We’re all working on something. Or maybe we haven’t started, but we’ve been meaning to get around to it — one of these days. Regardless of what stage we’re at, staying motivated is a challenge. The excitement of a new endeavor wears off; it’s all too easy to brush a project aside and pretend it doesn’t exist sometimes. Pushing through it means encountering problems. It means struggle. It means potentially falling into (another) existential crisis. Scrolling through your Twitter timeline, reading a book, or watching TV is infinitely more comfy.
For me, I’ve never been one of those people who is going all the time. I can pick up projects and work on them intensely and passionately for awhile; then, the motivation may sputter and I leave everything in a corner to collect dust.
But why does this have to happen? (Hint: it doesn’t.) True, you discover that some things really aren’t your calling once you experiment. But I also catch myself picking up the same projects, working on them for a short while, and then getting discouraged, only to try my hand at them again some time later. It can be a fruitless and discouraging cycle.
I took some time lately to contemplate some of the reasons why these spurts of motivation peter out — and how to get back on track.
One: You’re thinking too big
Of course, it’s practical and common sense to outline long-term goals and define your vision in the world out there. It’s difficult to begin a project if you can’t even fathom the end.
But only mapping out broad, long-term goals means there is a breadth of space for your motivation to dwindle between now and the finish line. If you haven’t learned how to play one chord on the guitar yet but are preoccupied with ideas of music auditions, that objective is too distant to apply directly to your current task. Moreover, an overly big-picture goal doesn’t provide any sense of direction by which to proceed.
Ground yourself.
Mark milestones along the way to major accomplishments. Smaller goals are heaps more attainable in the day-to-day, and create a path to track your progress. It may help to create a chart of the aspects that you:
- Haven’t started
- Are working on
- Need to improve
- Have already finished
A project is much more manageable when it is scaled down into smaller pieces. It has orientation. You can fully focus on one part at a time, and directly relate what you are doing to the short-term goal in front of you. Seeing definite evidence of your progress is much more motivating than taking stabs at a distant goal, knowing you’re somewhat closer.
Two: You’re letting periods of inactivity get you down
This is a major one, particularly for those of us caught in that millennial sense of urgency. We should always be productive. We should always be getting closer to our goals. We should always be trying to get ahead because if we’re not getting ahead, we’re falling behind.
Stop it.
This kind of “self-motivation” may work in the short-term, but it is fundamentally self-destructive and propelled by fear; it’s no wonder that anxiety is on the rise in recent years. Doing something because you’re afraid of failure or falling behind is not a solid foundation for your ambitions in the long run. Your project becomes a competition between yourself and what you think everyone else is doing.
So if you spend a day, a few days, even a week, not really being productive, don’t beat yourself up too much about it. We are only human and can’t be expected to work at 100% capacity 24/7; we burn out sooner or later. Sometimes a short hiatus is exactly what we need (even if we don’t realize it in the moment) to recollect our thoughts and spring back into action. Negative thinking and guilt-tripping will only begin to wear down your motivation. You may start feeling as if you have to force yourself to work — and if you aren’t enthusiastic about what you’re doing, that motivation will dissipate even faster. Be comfortable with yourself knowing you can rest, and still accomplish those goals. Use that off-time to refuel and think things over, or think about nothing project-related at all.
Just don’t let it consume you — set a definite time at which to resume work, and stick to it.
Three: You’re tackling something you can’t do entirely by yourself
I’m a one-woman band type of person, so I’m prone to doing this. I love handling things by myself because it’s a challenge; I also have very specific creative visions when I work, so I’m always a little hesitant to bring someone else in who might not get it. But being too individualistic can result in biting off way more than you can chew. Furthermore, the task at hand may seem too difficult to accomplish at all, when it’s actually just too difficult to do alone.
Take a step back and analyze whether this is the case. It is important that you recognize that you are not superhuman. Enlisting the help of other people means a wider skill set with which to work, and multiple perspectives to contribute to your creative cloud. Asking for help could even simply be soliciting advice or a second opinion. It’s not weakness or relinquishing your individuality, but rather an opportunity to expand your project and learn from other people. Not to mention, it also means you and your project partners can motivate and inspire each other along the way.
Four: You’re thinking too much
I am absolutely an overthinker and overanalyzer. I oftentimes catch myself dissecting the process and end results of a project without even having begun it. Firstly, I eventually realized that this kind of meticulous arranging simply ruins the excitement and unknown of a new venture. Those are alluring factors that impel us to explore and learn.
Secondly, analyzing and planning develop a myriad of expectations, what- could-go-wrongs, and what-ifs. News flash: you just can’t plan or predict life that way. While it’s good to be mentally prepared for problems along the way, you have to let your ambitions take their own organic path.
What’s more, this kind of overthinking inevitably turns negative. You begin mulling over all the possible permutations that could go wrong along the way, and doubting yourself. That tiny voice in your head, the one that tells you that you can’t do things, starts to take over. And you may feel doomed by some kind of self-fulfiling prophecy of failure.
Don’t let thinking consume you.
All that thinking could be spent doing, and realizing the progress you have made so far. Whenever I catch myself thinking a little too much about a project — and especially when it begins to spiral downwards into negativity — I immediately change channels and occupy my mind with something else. Take a break, take a walk, anything. Return with a fresh mind.
Five: You’re not in it for yourself
Since #2 also relates to this factor, I’ll reiterate myself for good measure: don’t let fear and anxiety be your motivators. Do let passion propel you towards your goals.
Thus, it’s important to examine your motives carefully: why you’re striving to achieve your goals. For whom you are working. Hopefully, it’s ultimately for yourself — and your self-realization, growth, and achievement.
At the end of the day, we are most driven to accomplish what resonates with us as human beings. Recognition, outward appearances, the satisfaction of others — those factors may all play a role, but our dreams can’t be built on them.
You have to want those goals yourself.
Think about whether your ambitions are 100% authentic to you, and whether you want them as ends in themselves. If that’s not true, you may have to do a little soul-searching and reevaluate your plans in able to move forward with purpose. If that is true, take this opportunity to (first revel in that, and) remind yourself that if you truly will it, you can do it.
Now, go off and be motivated!
What do you find hinders your motivation, and how do you keep your momentum? Leave a response/your thoughts below!
