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Today’s quote is from a movie, called Office Space (1999). Here you can find the 2 minute clip, from where the dialogue below is taken.
This is my weekly piece on gaining a different perspective. Even when (especially when!) we might be feeling frustrated, misunderstood and annoyed!
Today, for best experience, I invite you to savour this scene directly on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsLUidiYm0w&t=42s
Levels are an IPEC concept that helps us live life differently and reframe. You can find a key of the Levels at the bottom of this piece.
LEVEL 1 (Core thought: I will lose. Core feelings: apathy, indifference, feeling lost, cold, afraid, useless…)
LEVEL 2 (Core thought: You lose! I win. Core feeling: anger, annoyance, resentment, irritability, frustration). Quote falls in here. Note that the words in today’s quote are not necessarily charged but the situation is clearly one, where we can argue that Peter is feeling misunderstood and frustrated (and likely, Bill is also at least frustrated):
— Bill: Uh… we have sort of a problem here. Yeah. You apparently didn’t put one of the new coversheets on your TPS reports.
— Peter: Oh, yeah. I’m sorry about that. I, I forgot.
— Bill: Yeah. You see, we’re putting the cover sheets on all TPS reports
now before they go out. Did you see the memo about this?— Peter: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I’ve got the memo right here, but, uh, uh, I just forgot. But, uh, it’s not shipping out until tomorrow, so there’s no problem.
— Bill: Yeah. If you could just go ahead and make sure you do that from now on, that will be great. And uh, I’ll go ahead and make sure you get another copy of that memo. Mmmm, Ok?
What do we know for sure? We know that the only person we have full control over, is ourselves.
LEVEL 3 (Core thought: I still win but I am not attached to you losing. Core feeling: forgiveness, letting go of resentment and anger, excusing a fault or mistake). We are still annoyed but we can see the silver lining.
— Bill: Uh… we have sort of a problem here. Yeah. You apparently didn’t put one of the new coversheets on your TPS reports. I know it can happen to miss something, can you fix it?
— Peter: Oh, yeah. I’m sorry about that. I forgot. I am on it now, will be on the reports when they go out tomorrow.
LEVEL 4 (Core thought: You win, and I help you win. Core feeling: compassion, empathy, warmth, kindness, self-compassion). Here we are still feeling resentful to some extent. Yet, we want to help others because they might be feeling down, too.
— Bill: Uh… we have sort of a problem here. Yeah. You apparently didn’t put one of the new coversheets on your TPS reports. I know we have all been busy, so I am coming to check on you. How can I support you better?
— Peter: Oh, yeah. I’m sorry about that. I, I forgot. Thank you for offering, it has been a struggle lately. But I am on it now.
Notice how the higher the level, the support also increases. Not to mention that we save time, as the conversations shorten as well!
In conclusion? YOU GOT THIS! We cannot always choose reality, but we can learn how to choose our perspective on it. IT CAN BE TAUGHT AND LEARNED!!!
And I remind myself that wherever I find myself from 1 through 7, it is okay. I am okay, and where I am is the lesson I am meant to be learning right now.
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Levels of energy: iPEC
Level 1: Feeling lost. Stuck. Lack of choice. I can’t. I have to. Fearful.
Level 2: Anger. Combativeness. Resisting or fighting energy.
Level 3: Rationalizing. Fine. Coping.
Level 4: Care. Compassion. Service to others.
Level 5: Reconciliation. Win-win. Solution-focused.
Level 6: Intuition. Creative genius. Visionary.
Level 7: Absolute Passion. Non-judgment. Oneness.
