Husband | Father | Leader

Are there walls between these roles? Do they compete with each other?

Fighting to keep these roles in alignment, and balanced, feels like a full time job in and of itself. Often times there is what feels like a push and pull — more marriage time will mean less job time, or more kid time will mean less marriage time, or more job time will mean less of the other two at the same time. If you are more than one of these roles, or know someone who is, then I don’t need to describe the conundrum further because it’s truth to you.

As a husband, I can vouch for the fact that we are too often terrible at talking to other husbands about how to get better in the role. As a father of 4, I can vouch for the fact that we almost never make time to talk with other fathers about what good fatherhood looks like. As a leader who is both of those, I can absolutely guarantee that the discussions about how to prioritize these 3 roles — though so many of us are navigating them at the same time — are minimal, if they ever happen at all.

How ridiculous is that? We don’t take any of these roles lightly, and when we’re smart we value them all incredibly, but then we don’t collaborate. We don’t use each other to get better — to share. Then we toil away fighting what appears to be a push and pull, in solitude. Typical dudes.

I’ve started this blog to create a space to share thoughts on all 3 roles, and how those 3 roles can interplay together. I’m not an expert, I can tell you that. I am interested in doing all 3 well, and as a leader I’m excited about learning more about reconciling all those roles so that I can be a role model for others. As a father I’m excited about learning more so that I can be a role model for my kids. As a husband I’m excited about learning more so that I can make the most of the time we get together — as the clock invariably ticks on.

I hope you’ll join me for the conversation, so that we can learn from each other. I hope you’re passionate about living your best version of all 3, all at the same time — and creating an environment on all fronts that declares they are not in a battle against each other. Rather, they are roles that make each of those distinct roles better, in a cycle. They’re symbiotic.

It is with that in mind that I kick this off. Join me!



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Benjamin Anderson

Benjamin Anderson

Husband. Father. Leader. I’m passionate about being all three, and firmly believe that they can work together in concert. If you are one, or know one, read on.