The emotional virginity.
The one they should really warn you about losing.
vir·gin·i·ty
/vərˈjinətē/
Noun
- The state of never having had sexual intercourse: “he lost his virginity in college”.
- The state of being naive, innocent, or inexperienced in a particular context: “his political virginity”.
a.k.a. “Life”
Life is nothing but a long list of long lost virginities.
The “classic” virginity, the drinking virginity the smoking virginity, the drug virginity. The first time you stole something, the first time you cheated, the first time you lied, the first time you argued. The first time you felt friendship, fear, excitement. The first time you felt Love.
So while you’re walking home now, on the verge of tears, confused as if in one of those vivid dreams, take a moment and read this.
This is the moment of your first break up.
You might’ve been right, or wrong. It doesn’t matter. They cheated? They don’t love you anymore? They say they don’t know? It doesn’t matter. It will never matter from this moment on. They dumped you.
Face it.
Everyone’s been here. Everyone.
They’ve all experienced this. They were all emotional virgins.
We only love once. Don’t listen what friends, parents and cheap love songs tell you. It’s all a giant scheme to make sure you WILL try again.
Much like career, school and some kinds of foods.
You will not love again. At least, not like this. But there’s no need to despair. This is an opportunity.
They say ten decisions shape your life, but you’ll be aware of five.
About.
This is one of them. Probably your first conscious one. Now let’s take a look at options.
Option A:
You fear forever rejection and pain, and become one of the assholes. Yes, the assholes. Those guys who think they have no more love to give, and approach their sentimental life like HOVA taught us : “On To The Next One”.
Option B:
You fear being forever alone, and become one of the welcome mats. Definition of “welcome mat” is that person that is not necessarily unattractive but has lost any will to even simply RISK that something might go wrong. It’s in the sadness of their watery eyes, the weight of their shoulders and in that fake smile when they agree to something they would normally NEVER-in-a-million-years agree too.
It’s your choice. And in any case, you’re not an emotional virgin anymore. They broke through the hymen of your soul.
And just like for your “classic” virginity, society is gonna spend every remaining second of your life reminding you what a stupid thing to do that was.
Have a nice stay.
